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Learning to Practice Self Kindness

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“Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” ~Lama Yeshe

When you are juggling all that life throws your way it’s inevitable that you will some times “drop the ball”. That is what happened on the home front earlier this month. Without going into into the details, I’ll just say that I hyper focused in one area of my child’s life leaving another area totally unaccounted for. I didn’t cross my t’s and dot my i’s. I didn’t have something that is a pretty big deal all neatly squared away. Instead, I dropped the ball. I left a task unattended that created a lot of stress. I realized the error of my ways on a Sunday and I wasn’t able to do anything about it because it was a Sunday. I had to wait until Monday to tackle the issue. This created an avalanche of anxiety over the worst case scenario. I was a complete wreck. I cried, I stressed and I talked to myself really badly. “How I can I be so stupid?” “Why didn’t I follow up” “What kind of parent am I?” and on and on. For HOURS this went on. Even when rationally I knew nothing could be done about it I continued to berate myself, question my worth as a parent and feel incredibly sad and depressed. I tried multiple times practice being kind to myself. I am only human. Just an imperfect person who makes mistakes. Still I couldn’t shake the “terrible person, awful parent” feeling of having to possible disappoint my child in a way I didn’t intend to.

In the end it all worked out. I had some things to take care that put things on the right path. I had my husband on my side helping in every way he could to set things right. He was (as he always is) my rock. He gets to the heart of the issue and helps things happen whenever I am paralyzed by fear and doubt and pity. I dropped the ball. I am going to do that some times. I have to let it be okay and trust that all will be fine. I don’t know why when things go wrong I rip myself to shreds. I’m sure it’s a pretty common phenomenon but, where did we learn that tearing ourselves down makes any sense in fixing the issue? Learning to be nicer to myself is a work in progress. I clearly need to nurture self-kindness. Taking a moment to change how I speak to myself, journaling to help get out of my head and meditating to are all ways I can try the next time I breakdown, because there is always a next time.

 

Looking for ways to practice self-kindness? I found an awesome article and guided meditations to help.

40 Way to Practice Self-Kindness

Guided Self-Compassion Meditations by Kristin Neff, author of the book “Self-Compassion”.

Perfectly Imperfect Birthday

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This weekend, I celebrated my birthday with Bert and the boys. Last week was the first week of having both kids back to school. With the boys going to two different schools, a new work schedule for me, trying to make more home cooked dinner and packing lunches every evening I was wiped out by my birthday on Friday. I woke up a little cranky and blah, and the day went a bit awry. I kind of wished instead of working for the day, I would have planned a pedicure or lunch date for myself. Ah, well. I perked up after work and was pleasantly surprised when my birthday gift from Bert arrived early from Zappos. I wasn’t expecting it until next week. I opened the box with excitement to find men’s boots instead of my new pair of Birkenstocks. Luckily, Zappos is awesome. They apologized, got the right shoes in the mail and offered me a nice sized coupon to use on a future purchase – I already took advantage and ordered something I’ve wanted for awhile, a coffee grinder. By the way, when did Zappos begin carrying so much stuff?! After picking the kids up from school we stopped at Sprouts and I thought getting myself some flowers would be awesome. The boys picked out a beautiful white orchid plant. We headed home and when I walked in the door, I saw a huge purple and yellow orchid plant on the table. I was floored. Bert had the same idea! I couldn’t help but laugh. Now I have an beautiful purple orchid plant in the kitchen and the white one I bought myself in my studio. I wasn’t feeling up to going out to dinner so, we ordered pizza. It was delicious as always but unfortunately it left me super bloated and my stomach hurt for the rest of the night. Bert picked up a rich luscious dark chocolate and raspberry cake that looked delicious but, I couldn’t eat it that night. The kids didn’t like it at all so, not much was eaten Friday. I sure enjoyed it for breakfast on Saturday though! Bert is such a great sport. He tried so hard to give me a perfect day but, at every turn something went awry. It was however, a beautifully imperfect birthday.

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Lucky for me, I got a whole weekend to celebrate! I felt like I needed to get my nature fix so, we decided to drive north and visit one of my favorite spots near Payson – the Tonto Natural Bridge. There is something so special about this little gem of a place. We had a wonderful time hanging in the cool mist of the waterfall in the cavern under the bridge. Afterwards we had an early dinner in at a local diner and headed home. We were listening to the Grateful Dead on the drive home and “So Many Roads” came on. I love road trips, driving and taking in the scenery that surrounds always eases my soul. It was such a wonderful day.

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Today, I got a chance to thrift shop and buy supplies for an art project I’m working on and then I relaxed at home. A little resting, reading and cleaning getting ready for a new week. Thank you for all the wishes of happiness for my birthday via texts, calls and social media! You guys sure know how to make a girl feel loved!!! I’m blessed to have so many wonderful and caring people in my life. I am looking forward to year filled with happiness, abundance, creativity and more imperfectly perfect moments!

Nursery Artwork for Joseph Liam

Bert, the boys and I traveled to New York this month to visit our families and celebrate my sister Kelly’s baby shower. She decided on a white and gray color scheme for her baby boy, Joseph Liam’s nursery. A sweet little elephant bedding set from Pottery Barn was chosen and that was my starting point for creating the artwork for my nephew’s nursery.

 

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Below are my pencil sketches and the first layers of paint through the final artwork.

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I glued patterned scrapbook paper for the elephants ears and the balloons. The colors and outlines of the elephants were pretty heavy handed at first.

 

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I knew I needed to go lighter so, I painted the elephants white and lightened the outlines as well as began lightening up the blue background. For Joseph Liam’s name banner I picked up wooden letters at the hobby store, glued them to the canvas and painted everything white. I have to thank Pinterest for this beauty of an idea. I pinned a similar letter piece a couple years ago and that was the perfect inspiration for this project! I first painted with acrylic paint but, after a few coats of white it wasn’t feeling bright white enough for me. I decided to try white spray paint instead. The paint covered the surface much quicker, easier and brighter with the spray paint.

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Final three pieces of artwork. The colors and outlines are much softer overall. The little stitching detail on the ears and balloons adds the right amount of handmade sweetness to these little guys. I worked to match the Pottery Barn pattern as best I could with a little of me thrown in (mostly in the addition of a little color).

 

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My sister opening her gift from me. It was one of the few surprises I was able to get by her as she was “in the know” about everything! The second shower picture is of me, my sisters Kelly and Katie and my Mom. Kelly definitely got my mother’s gift of creating beautiful spaces. She has done a fabulous job of turning the baby’s room into a beautiful nursery and I’m so happy to be able to create artwork for her little boy. I can’t wait to meet my nephew!

2014 Bead&Button Show Recap

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Here are Sara and I are ready to demonstrate using Soft Flex Beading Wire at The 2014 Bead&Button Show in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. This marks my 5th or 6th year working the show with Soft Flex Company. I’m not entirely sure because, the years tend to blur together and I took a few years off after having my second child so, I haven’t worked them all in a row. For those in the beading industry this is one of the largest trade shows of the year. It is full of inspiration with hundreds of classes, free make it take it’s and demos, design challenges on display and large selection of beading vendors and art bead makers.

It is one of two trade shows a year I work in Soft Flex’s booth. It really nice to get out from behind my desk, spend time with my co-workers I rarely see and interact with our customers face to face. I did a lot of demoing on how to crimp as well as using Soft Flex wire to knit and macrame.

 

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I played around with knitting 28G Soft Flex Craft Wire during the show. I had a customer stop by having a tough time getting the final shape to look good so, I created a design that day and asked him to come back the next day and I would discuss how it went. We realized that he didn’t have a draw plate. This tool is necessary to work harden and even out the wire strand after knitting Craft Wire.

 

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Creating a macrame design with Soft Flex Wire. I loved this mini macrame board that Sara found on Amazon so much, I bought it from her to take home with me! It holds Soft Flex beading wire perfectly. So much easier then using tape – I find that the wire slips out of the tape too easily.

 

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My beading haul from the Bead&Button Show! Although I don’t NEED any more beading supplies I can’t help but shop a little when I’m at a show. It’s wonderful to see items in person, see design ideas and buy directly from artists and small businesses.

  1. Soft Flex Beading Wire  in Colors Peridot, Green Turquoise, Citrine, Red Jasper, Chrysoprase and Antique Brass Color.
  2. Wanderlust Pennants by Tesori Trovati Jewelry
  3. Crane Bead, If Love was a Bead and Tiger Bead from Beads of Courage
  4. Bokamo Bracelet Supplies
  5. Ceramic Beads by Golem Studio
  6. Shell Donut Pendants by Lillypilly Designs 
  7. Brass Bead Strand from Hands of the Hills

 

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Super random, I posted on Facebook that I was at the Milwaukee Public Market (cool place!) and my Phoenix friend Tosca saw it and and said she’ll be in Milwaukee that week too! She stopped by the show on Saturday night and we grabbed a bite to eat. It was great getting to know her better. We met during the Phoenix Art Mural Project in December and haven’t gotten together since. Social media at it’s finest when spontaneous meeting occur!

 

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We at Soft Flex Company had so much fun sharing our love of beading at the Bead&Button Show this year through demonstrations in our booth, free make-it-take-its, sponsoring Bead Dreams, sponsoring the ISGB exhibit and sponsoring the Beads of Courage Design Challenge. Looking forward to what’s in store for next year! Until then, I need to get my bead on.

If Inspire Were A Bead: Beads of Courage Jewelry Design Challenge

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Since I first shared about the Beads of Courage “Creativity in Full Circle” design challenge sponsored by Soft Flex Company in this post – I have a bit more information about the process to share. It’s really flippin’ cool!

The challenge begins with 10 Beads of Courage children, siblings and parents who create beads based on words like Love, Hope and Spirit and what those words mean to them. 10 glass bead artists were then challenged to create beads based on the top designs. 10 jewelry designers chosen by Soft Flex Company were challenged to incorporate the beads into a finished necklace design.

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The bead I received was based on if INSPIRE were a bead … designed by Kailey Maks (Age: 8) from Ann & Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago, IL.

In her words: Meaning to breathe life – dolphin and water do both. It is said unicorn dolphins – finding a cure for illness and ocean waves – storm/sickness. Fitting that a unicorn dolphin symbolizes findings a cure!

The bead artist that brought Kailey’s design to life in glass is Nanette Charif from Tucson, AZ.

Nanette’s Bio: I have been a glass artist for 9 years. I began collecting beads and stringing them together over 30 years ago. My focus started with beads and what I can do with them and adding my hand crafted beads with store beads for my jewelry. I have since learned to make murini and multi-colored canes along with more sculptured type pieces like turtles, fish, and pumpkins. I get much of my inspiration from my wonderful lush backyard  and my beautiful Koi pond. Tucson also has the benefit of other cultures to enrich all of us.

Click to purchase if Inspire was a bead … as well as see all the other top bead designs!

 

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If INSPIRE were a bead was then sent to me and I incorporated it into this  necklace bringing “Creativity in Full Circle”! When I received my bead in the mail it was equal parts excitement and fear. I had just a few weeks to complete my design, the final necklace was to be  showcased with designers I respect and admire, but mostly I wanted to honor the bead designed by Kailey and created by Nanette and it’s a bead based on the word Inspire!

I needed to push myself to create something that hopefully would inspire others. I began working with the bead to create a hanging pendant. I’m inspired by jewelry designs that use interesting materials and force me look closer and examine how it was created. With that in mind, I knew I wanted the pendant to have some fun elements like the Dark Blue Lapis Soft Flex Wire and bead tassel. I also felt that knitting Dark Blue Lapis Soft Flex beading wire would add interest with texture. I knit with wire often but, had yet to add beads to my knitted designs so, of course I wanted to try that out and knitted with Swarovski crystal beads! Lastly, I added some fun blue glass beads from my stash and added those and crystal beads to complete the necklace. I was a little concerned I was putting too many idea in one piece but, I think by keeping the color scheme classic and simple in blue and white it helps it all work together.

I’m truly honored to be one of the 10 designers participating in this challenge  alongside jewelry designers I admire so very much and a wonderful cause I am happy to support! The finished necklace designs were featured at the 2014 Bead&Button Show in Milwaukee and sold to raise money for the Beads of Courage Program.

 

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The designers chosen by Soft Flex Company to make the final pieces include:
Jamie Hogsett
Diane Trepanier

Visit Beads of Courage to learn more and see how you can get involved with this amazing organization! Beads of Courage, provides arts-in-medicine for children coping with serious illnesses, their families and the health care providers who care for them. Truly an awesome organization.

Visit Soft Flex Company for more information about this project with Beads of Courage and the products used in the final jewelry designs.

Work in Process: Desert Nectar

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24″ x 36″

I worked on the background for this piece a few months ago.  Unsure of what to paint I let it sit in studio for awhile. I wanted to add to another desert plant painting to my collection so, when I thought about what to create, a picture I took of my neighbors plants popped in my head. The hummingbird appeared while I painted. I adore hummingbirds and always get excited when I see one so when he appeared in my artwork I was tickled! After a little research today, I found that this plant is called “Blue Elf Aloe” which doesn’t feel like a fitting name so, it’s all the more fitting to me that the hummingbird turned out to be blue.

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Work in Process posts share the visual journey of one of my paintings from the first drips of color to the finished piece. I hope you enjoy this peek into my process! Click here to see all the posts in this ongoing series.

Desert Nectar is for sale. Email me if interested in purchasing.

Tutorial Tuesday: Braided Ladybug Bracelet

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Tutorial Tuesday is a blog series where I share a do-it-yourself jewelry tutorial on Soft Flex Company’s blog.

One of earth’s loveliest little creatures, the ladybug makes an appearance in this playful ladybug braided bracelet. It’s a perfect accessory to welcome Spring! Skills needed to complete bracelet are braiding and crimping.

 

Materials:
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Chain Nose Pliers
Mini Bead Stoppers

Cut Soft Flex Beading Wire into three 16″ lengths, one black and two red wires. With the black wire positioned in the middle, attach all three wires securely to your bead stopper leaving 2.5″ inch tail for each wire. Begin braiding your wires and whenever a red wire is in the middle add 1 black seed bead. After a couple rows you’ll start to see the pattern emerge and the black wire will look like a wave running through the braid.

 

Once you have 15 black seed beads throughout your braid, string one ladybug bead (back side first) through all three beading wires keeping the black wire in the middle. Next, string your red bicone bead through the middle black wire and allow the two red wire to wrap around the bicone bead. Now, string all three wires through your second ladybug bead (front side first) so that your ladybug beads are facing one another. Continue your braid pattern on the second side, adding black seed beads to the red wires whenever they are in the middle until you have used the remaining 15 black seed beads. Please another bead stopper on this end to secure the wires.

Using your chain nose pliers, open the 4mm jump rings and attach to each side the toggle clasp. Remove the bead stopper on one side of your bracelet and string a 3mm crimp tube onto all three wires.String  the 4mm jump ring attached to the circle end of your toggle clasp through all three wires and back through the crimp tube. Do not crimp yet. Remove the bead stopper from the other side of your bracelet and string a 3mm crimp tube onto all three wires.String  the 4mm jump ring attached to the bar end of your toggle clasp through all three wires and back through the crimp tube. Do not crimp yet.

Measure your finished bracelet and see if it is the size you desire before crimping. If you need to make the design smaller remove the clasp and crimp and undo a bit of the braid, re-string the crimp and clasp and measure again. If you need to make the design slightly larger you may simply add an extra jump ring to one or both sides of the toggle clasp to easily extended the design.

Once you are happy with the bracelet size, use your Magical Crimpers to close the crimp tube. For crimping instructions, click here. Finally, trim off the excess wire close to the crimp.

 

Beads of Courage Jewelry Design Challenge

imageBeads of Courage and Soft Flex Company are teaming up for a special design challenge called “Creativity in Full Circle”.

For the “Creativity in Full Circle” design challenge, 10 glass beads were created based on drawings by 10 children in the Beads of Courage program. Those beads were sent to 10 jewelry designers who were asked to create a finished necklace design with each bead. The finished necklace designs will be featured at the next Bead&Button Show in Milwaukee and sold to raise money for the Beads of Courage Program.

My word is inspire and this is the imaginative bead I received this week, now I need to get to work on creating a necklace design. I’m super excited to be one of the 10 designers participating in this challenge  alongside jewelry designers I admire and a wonderful cause I am happy to support!

For those of you who are not familiar with Beads of Courage, they provide arts-in-medicine for children coping with serious illnesses, their families and the health care providers who care for them. Truly an awesome organization.

Visit Beads of Courage to see how you can get involved with this amazing organization!

Visit Soft Flex Company for more information about this project with Beads of Courage.

The Phoenix Mural Project: Murals for Sale!

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Last December, I participated in a community “mural”  during the 2013 Phoenix Festival of the Arts. I painted outdoors alongside over 120 local muralists creating beautiful 3ft x 6ft murals throughout Hance Park as part of an ongoing project called “The Phoenix Mural” led by artist, Hugo Medina.

 

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The murals created during the festival are available for purchase for $300 each through the Phoenix Center of the Arts.  To view murals currently available, Click here to see remaining murals! Simply note the mural number you wish to purchase and call 602-254-3100 to complete your order. A portion of the sales goes to benefit the center and a generous portion goes to the artist!

Work in Process: Water Lilies

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12″ x 24″

The water lily, also known as lotus, is seen as a symbol for rebirth. Water lilies close and fall below the water at night and at daybreak rise from muck. While its roots are in the mud, the flower blooms beautifully above the water.

WaterliliesCollageWork in Process posts share the visual journey of one of my paintings from the first drips of color to the finished piece. I hope you enjoy this peek into my process! Click here to see all the posts in this ongoing series.

Water Lilies is for sale at Yoga Styles in Phoenix, Arizona. Email yogastylesinfo@gmail.com or me if interested in purchasing.

 

With Art in Motion, I share the visual journey through the life of one of my paintings — from the blank canvas, to the first splash of inspiration, all the way to the finished piece. Enjoy to the fullest! – See more at: http://kellyraeroberts.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2014-04-26T11:02:00-07:00&max-results=5#sthash.20aC9xaq.dpuf
With Art in Motion, I share the visual journey through the life of one of my paintings — from the blank canvas, to the first splash of inspiration, all the way to the finished piece. Enjoy to the fullest! – See more at: http://kellyraeroberts.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2014-04-26T11:02:00-07:00&max-results=5#sthash.20aC9xaq.dpuf
With Art in Motion, I share the visual journey through the life of one of my paintings — from the blank canvas, to the first splash of inspiration, all the way to the finished piece. Enjoy to the fullest! – See more at: http://kellyraeroberts.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2014-04-26T11:02:00-07:00&max-results=5#sthash.20aC9xaq.dpuf
With Art in Motion, I share the visual journey through the life of one of my paintings — from the blank canvas, to the first splash of inspiration, all the way to the finished piece. Enjoy to the fullest! – See more at: http://kellyraeroberts.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2014-04-26T11:02:00-07:00&max-results=5#sthash.20aC9xaq.dpuf